Onions are terrible! Sounds like something a kid would blurt out definitively. But are onions really terrible? Though it’s the predominant view among children, you certainly find throngs of people who would claim the opposite to be true, that onions are awesome! Diced raw, sautéed, julienned, onions are celebrated by many a trained palate. Perhaps it’s the immaturity of children, or the fact that they haven’t even tried onions, that prevents them from enjoying such a delicacy. And it’s not just onions, but also vegetables such as brussel sprouts that would also demand protest (I may be inclined to agree on that one!).
You may be asking what the point of all of this is. The same way that many children believe and are almost encouraged to perpetuate the opinion that onions are terrible, that statement falls very short of being true, especially across all demographics. I wonder if we do the same with other more important things than food based on spiritual immaturity or popularly held beliefs or traditions of man.
Adam Young is a counselor with a podcast called, “The Place We Find Ourselves.” Episode 59 is part of a powerful series on spiritual warfare. It introduces the concept of making and breaking agreements. I’m convinced that a big part of our story boils down to agreements that we made and maintained until we realized they were a bad deal. Like a bad contract, they are binding until the agreement is terminated. “Onions are terrible!” is an agreement, however it is not one that causes much trouble. My issues with lust, objectification, and porn stemmed from much more nefarious agreements:
- As a man, I’m wired to be stimulated visually.
- When I see bare skin, the only “natural” response is to be tempted to react sexually, in deed or thought.
- This is every man’s battle, so it will be a constant struggle.
- Anyone who says he’s conquered lust has to be lying or delusional.
Mrs. Phil (who likes brussel sprouts, by the way) also made some agreements for most of her life. Here are a few of the agreements she had to break:
- I’ll never be good enough.
- I’m the fat sister.
- She (anyone) is so much prettier than me.
- Self love is arrogance, and I’m supposed to be humble.
- I’m solely responsible for protecting my husband’s purity.
As you can see, these are all statements far more terrible than onions could ever be. How damaging to our relationship with each other, with God, and even with ourselves!
On the surface, many of these agreements appear to be noble (see Colossians 2:23). They are even taught passionately in our evangelical Christian circles. How messed up is this? If our enemy, who despises the image of God, wants to destroy that aspect of our thinking, he’s done a tremendous job, right from the start.
The good news is that our minds can be renewed! We can wage spiritual warfare by breaking those bad agreements and the bondage that comes with them! From one kid who grew to love onions to the next, we can change our minds on any and all ideas that need renewing! That’s true repentance, changing your mind.
That would be the end of my article usually, but I may include one bonus agreement that I entertained years ago, and succumbed to it’s falsehood instead of rejecting, and exchanging it for the truth:
- Anyone who calls themselves a Christian naturist is probably a pervert, a pedophile, or at the very least someone who is justifying their sinful nature.
The truth is, I’m none of those things, and I’m writing this article from inside a hot tub at a naturist park. I’m fully convinced this is one of the best places to write!
You nailed it with your four bullet points of “nefarious agreements” as applied to men. And they create such a stronghold of hopeless bondage because they are based on our life experience of incorrect perceptions rather than truth.
I was reading David Hatton’s book (Who Said You Were Naked?) again this morning and came across this paragraph that is so helpful in breaking these agreements:
“Having a creational, incarnational view of the body changes the prayer from “Lord, help me stop looking at porn,” to “Lord, help me start seeing the naked body as You do.” When God answers the latter prayer, the allurement of pornography will come to an end.”
Thanks again for a meaningful article that helps to renew the mind.
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Great comment and quote! Thanks for reading and sharing.
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Thanks for the great article. Agreements are often made early and as you mentioned “based on spiritual immaturity or popularly held beliefs or traditions of man.” These beliefs are often perpetuated blindly without challenge and as such the agreements promoted forward generation to generation binding them unwittingly. I also believe many of these beliefs and traditions were established and often codified in our laws and rules to hide behind and by showing compliance the conscience is appeased but the source (our minds and hearts) remain unchanged. We have a true Enemy determined to destroy and it is indeed spiritual warfare. He does not have to bind us if we are already bound by agreement.
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Beautifully said! So good.
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